JORDADDY
Temporary friends5/14/2018 This morning I scrolled through instagram and saw all the kids in my hometown graduating from high school alongside some that were graduating from college. They post pictures with their friends they've know since the were 6 and their boyfriends they met in 9th grade. I go to work and I see how everyone around me has know each other since middle school and how they've maintained friendships for years on end that only get stronger. These are the people that will one day write wedding speeches for one another, they're the people that will one day be called auntie and uncle when they tell stories to their kids of all the dumb things they used to do when they were teenagers. They've been their for each others rebellious stage or for their first heart break and for that one or five times they got just a little too drunk. These people grow up alongside one another and see each other change into better versions of themselves. They are a community of friends that have become family and are the foundations of each others identity.
I grew up always jumping from school to school for no apparent reason. At 15 I moved away on my own only to return home and go to a high school in a different city than where I lived. I graduated at 17 only to move out of the country for a second time at 18. All my life I have been constantly jumping from communities of people never feeling like have found a place that I truly belong. I never got that group of people that have been with me through everything. Then again I never really gave anyone a chance to be those people. While a lot of the time I wonder what it's like to live a life surrounded by those that have known you since the start, I've been lucky enough to really love the people I consider temporary friends. Moving around I've gotten the opportunity to meet a wide array of people, each time I move I wind up with a group of friends completely different than the last. I've gotten to lean how different types of people think and how they grow up and I've learned how close you can get to people in such short period of time. Some of my best friends I met and left within one year of knowing them and they are some of my biggest supporters and greatest friends. While with a lot of people our friendship ends when I leave, however I leave with experiences and memories I wouldn't trade for anything. When I go through a heart break I will shoot my friends back home a text while I lean on the shoulder of someone I met a couple months ago. At my wedding my current best friend may not be my maid of honor but they will be their smiling from within the crowd just as I will do for them. The speeches being given will be from people that have never met one another and will cover completely different parts of my life from when they knew me. When I look back, I look back on memories filled with nothing but happiness as I remember the people I've met and became friends with, while I may not be able to recreate those memories ever again I can carry them with me wherever I end up next. I constantly live on the cusp of friend groups that will continue once I leave, I've learned that while friends may be expendable the memories you create with them are not . I see the the photos of people I used to know living their lives and growing up and I smile because I was fortunate to know that person at a specific time in their life. I was lucky to get to know them and I'm lucky to get to watch them move forward even if from afar. I may not be surrounded by people I've grown up around but I am filled with a patchwork of memories made with people I would have never met hadn't I put myself in the position of starting over. -Jorden
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